FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN
/ What's Left Behind
Iíve had the opportunity to think a lot about end
of life issues recently. Last week, I spoke of
my dear friend Barbaraís passing; this Monday, I was
on a panel of experts who were interviewed for the
Life @ The End;
of course, there is the 10th anniversary of 9/11 and
the upcoming 20th anniversary of my dadís passing.
I do hope you take the time to see the
documentary. I think the filmmakers struck just the
right note, talking more about the relationships of
those families highlighted in the film than the
inevitable events detailing the passing of their
As I see it, when the immediate and intense grief
of our loved oneís passing subsides, what remains is
the spirit of the moments you created together.
These are reflected in those flashes when you feel
their warmth as if they are still sitting right next
to you, or hear their laughter in the rustling of
the trees or even smell their favorite perfume
wafting in the wind when there is no one else around
wearing the brand.
What they leave behind is the spirit of
themselves that lives within everyone who ever knew
them. I sometimes see my grandmotherís twinkle
in my nieceís eye or see my dadís expressions on my
brotherís face or even hear my grandfatherís voice
coming out of my own mouth, not only in inflections,
but in some of his favorite sayings. And although I
know that they are not really still here, they never
And for that, I am eternally grateful.