FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN /
kvetch \ KVECH
1. To complain habitually.
1. A complaint. |
2. A habitual complainer.
Sometimes, I feel there is a great disconnect
between what is heard from the healthcare community and what
caregivers are telling me themselves. (Ok, maybe more than
often, just sometimes.) I do admit to feeling like somewhat of a
kvetcher when these moments strike. But someone's got to do it.
Here we go:
Of course, you know my old complaint about the
phrase "parenting your parent". No matter what we have to do to
support our parents as they need our help, we must never begin
to think we are actually parenting them. It is a cute and easy
play on words, but heaven forbid that you ever let them know
that is what you really think you are up to. They will send you
to your room without supper. Or worse.
In a recent conversation my friend, Jeff Loomis
from the University of Florida mentioned his distaste for the
term "Caregiver Burden". “Caregiver burden” is used by
professionals to describe the physical, emotional and financial
cost of providing care. Understandably, it is a necessary
concept to take into consideration when caring for their
caregiving clients and there has even been an important scale
created to measure "caregiver burden." It is just not a phrase
that goes over well when you are talking with actual caregivers.
Since language relays attitudes and emotions as much as it does
information, it is never more important to get the terminology
right than when it involves the care of our loved ones. Let's
take this opportunity to shed some light on those words or
phrases you hear that make you cringe.
Take it from me, every once in a while - it's good to kvetch a
My bothersome phrases