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Loving Investigations


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During these next few weeks, many of us will be traveling to visit family members for whom we care from a distance. In a very short amount of time, we will need to make an informal assessment of our loved one's physical and mental health, as well as their living situation.

Are they taking their medications? Are there unopened bills in the foyer? Is there old food (or no food) in the refrigerator? Are there hazards around the house that could lead to a fall? Many times, we will not get a positive response to our loving investigations simply because these family members do not want to see their situation change. They have lived in their home for many decades and do not want to take the next possible step toward assisted living care. In many of these cases, you actually do not have any legal rights to do more than make suggestions about their safety and care.

My friend Gracie went one step further as a long-distance caregiver and enlisted her parents’ trusted neighbors into her care team. She had moved across the country many years ago and had become a long-distance caregiver to her dad, who has developed a list of healthcare issues which make it difficult for Gracie’s mom to easily care for him. Of course, Gracie’s parents are stubbornly independent and would do no more than allow for suggestions, which they would heed or not. They would not allow any discussions about care management or in-home help from Gracie.

 

 

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