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Gary Barg

Howdy from Hannah

Two weeks ago, I shared the story of Hannah and Her Sister (no, not the Woody Allen movie), and so many of you so graciously sent emails filled with advice and support. I want to share a short update from Hannah and then some of the many responses you sent over the past few weeks.

Dear Gary,

I have to tell you that I would be less sad at this moment if Mom had died! She has one more week of rehab. She will linger in Rehab until a Long-Term Care bed opens up. She only responds to views out her window—not TV or socializing or crafts. Her tailbone and surrounding area is a stage 1 pressure sore and we have to address it by cleaning and zinc oxide ointments. Another thing that family members have to stay on top of. She will reside for perhaps three months there till Medicaid kicks in, at which time we will apply for transfer to Florida where my sister lives. My biggest fear is that she may die here and not in her own bed. My sister is staying here, missing work and income. Yesterday, after we drove to the surgeon for a post op visit, Mom asked if she could go home to her apartment. Her memory changes minute by minute, so she could forget by today... But we don't ever forget that she asked! Every other night I cry myself to sleep; the alternate night, I am so exhausted from the previous night, I pass out.

Gary, please share my appreciation with your readers for sending their words of wisdom after my previous email.  You don’t know how much it means to my family and me to know that so many people understand what we are going through and are willing to take the time to share their thoughts with us.

Readers’ Words of Wisdom for Hannah and her sister:

  1. I applaud Hannah and her sister for avoiding the anesthesia and hoping to keep their mom out of adult briefs…
  2. Give her the pain medication she requires, and adult undergarments. She has dementia, is 97 years old and deserves to be comfortable…
  3. Get in your car, roll up the windows, put on the air conditioning and the radio, and just scream and scream and scream…
  4. Please try to find an independent caregiver to stay with your mom overnight while she is in the rehabilitation center…
  5. I just want to say, I appreciate your kind response to the daughter…
  6. They could hire a caregiver to spend the night with their mom. Even every other night or every two nights would help…
  7. Make a phone call to your local senior center as they will have information about home health care services and respite care…
  8. Take time to take care yourself!
  9. Best idea is screaming in the woods. I am still laughing!
  10. Stop denying the progression of the dementia…
  11. You both deserve such praise and respect for the love you are showing to your mother…


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Gary Barg


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