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These are just some of the many responses we received from several Editorials ending with Managing Meds -

Being Taken Seriously

Four years ago, when I was three months pregnant, my husband was in a hit and run motorcycle accident. It left him paralyzed from the waist down and to this day, I take care of all of his daily living requirements; even when he's in the hospital. Since that time, both he and I have experienced inappropriate attitudes.    When my husband developed a lump on his back a year after his accident, it took six months before the doctors would address it. I begged and pleaded that there was something wrong and his pain was uncontrolled.  His right arm was paralyzed and it turned out he had spinal cord fluid back up, which at that point required emergency surgery.  In fact, I was given legal threats, threats to be escorted out of the hospital for being concerned for my husband's pain, asked outright if I was creating and exacerbating his pain issues and told that the lumps I saw on his back were to be ignored. (Sound familiar???)  In six weeks, he gets his spinal surgery and our family gets our life back.  What will we do to celebrate?  I have no clue...but hope next August we can renew our vows for 25 years of marriage.

Faith is the ability to believe in things that you cannot see.

Hope this helps you to help others.



I took my father, who has severe dementia, to the eye doctor.  My father has multiple vision issues and severely dry eyes.  As the doctor was examining him, my dad blurted out, “Well, I’m sure the reason my eye hurts so much is because earlier today it popped right out of my head and rolled around on the floor before I could pick it up and put it back in.” 


My husband Bob has had two strokes and has Parkinson's as well. I've been his fearless caregiver for more than 14 years with supplemental part-time helpers. I thought I'd play a joke on him to perk him up after a bad night. He's becoming more remote with advancing dementia, although he never forgets a movie he's seen or a good meal he's eaten. I sat at the kitchen table stark naked for one hour reading the newspaper and sometimes commenting on the news, but Bob didn't bat an eye or question why I was not dressed. When I called attention to my lack of clothes, he responded, "Yes, I saw you naked, but thought you were going to take a shower and YOU forgot what you were doing. I didn't want to hurt your feelings."


We need to find a way to work together and to appreciate and respect our differences without allowing them to tear us apart as a nation.  I don't know how we can heal or grow stronger when we are driven by fear and hate instead of compassion and forgiveness.

My husband, who is in the middle stages of Alzheimer’s disease, still has his sense of humor and at times really cracks us up.  Recently, his nurse asked, “What good news do you have today, Mr. S.?” He immediately said, “The best news I got today is that Barbara’s not pregnant…thank God!”  You see, he was back in time when we already had three small children and before the days of birth control medications.  In a few hours. it got around the care center and several said to me, “I am glad to hear that you’re not pregnant, Barbara.”   Since I am 81 years old, it turned a dull, serious day into laughs and joy.


When my parents were living with us several years ago, I would get into the shower with my dad every other night.  After the shower, my wife and I would dry Dad off and Connie would slather him with moisturizing lotion. I asked him if he wanted to wear boxers or jockey shorts and he said, “Depends.” We all smiled.

R. T.

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