Caregiver Respite Tips Responses
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Itís the 24/7 of it all. The
responsibility for another human being, an adult who
has a life and an identity that we are continually
trying to support and preserve for as long as it
shows itself. Itís the home care attendants
who don't show up and the ones who do but have no
sense of how to support the preservation of a
personís dignity. The negativity: the
wrinkle that canít be removed from the nightdress,
the wrong mittens, the shoes she has never seen
before although she has been wearing them for years.
Itís wearing, tiring, draining.
And what fills us back up again?
How much do we need to reclaim that energy, to reset
When I read of your request for
respite tips, what comes to mind for me is:
find respite opportunities, track them down, hunt
them, pray for them, do whatever you can think of to
get them, and TAKE THEM! They are critically
important to oneís sanity and to living life with no
regrets. Later, after Mom is gone, I donít
want to look back on this time as a time when I set
aside me, or my life, for the sake of Momís care.
I am no hero!
I live in upstate New York and the winters can
be long and confining. As soon as the good
weather arrives, I start to arrange lunch dates with
a couple very special friends. I use the
respite time provided with my husband's long-term
home care. A few hours here and there make a
world of difference. It is such a blessing!
A 30-minute walk in the sunshine ... a nice hot
soak in the tub ... a self-imposed 'time-out' with
some relaxing piano music on my Ipod ... a quick
trip to the library ... an early morning (or late at
night) cup of tea ... a once a month lunch/brunch
with friends ... even the luxury of a 'respite'
weekend trip to the Jersey Shore. Whether it's 15
minutes or 15 hours, take the time you deserve to
re-charge your batteries and maintain your health.