FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN /
Condo Casanovas and (gasp) Senior Sex
Late in the audience Q and A session at a recent
Fearless Caregiver Conference, a gentleman stood up
and asked if we knew which group presently has the
fastest growth rate of HIV in the United States. The
audience gasped when he related it was actually
women 60 years of age and over.
This was an important lesson for anyone with a
senior loved one, but not a new one to anyone living
in South Florida. As a matter of fact, in the first
Today’s Caregiver magazine, (July 1995), we
spoke of a new group forming to help seniors deal
with safer sex issues. In the condo canyons that
line the South Florida beachfront, the ratio of
single senior women to single senior men is
drastically disproportionate at a rate of 7 to 1. It
is possible for these “Condo Casanovas” to be
having relations with multiple partners in a single
high-rise building or senior community, as well as
be visiting area (to put it genteelly)
Of intense concern is the impression that since
they are not in one of the commonly thought
“high-risk” groups and there is no chance of
unwanted pregnancy, there would be no need for safer
sex behavior among seniors, such as condom usage.
Just when we thought we’ve had every uncomfortable
conversation with our senior loved ones regarding
their health and mortality, the most important (and
most difficult) still needs to be held.
If you or your loved ones are in demographic
groups in which you thought that AIDS could never
strike - think again. Imagine how difficult it was
for your parents to have had that first conversation
about sex with you when you were a teenager and
remember how woefully unprepared they were for the
“talk”. Now it is your turn.
Just remember to be a little more prepared than
they were in their late night conversations and feel
free to blush a little. But have the talk. For their
sake and yours.