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The Chronicles of Eugenia

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Gary

I get your newsletter daily and I have saved several of them for re-reading. They have helped me in many ways.

I am a caregiver for my spouse who has heart disease and many other complications. He has been in the hospital for five weeks and we are trying to get him healthy enough to return home. I sometimes feel overcome with grief for him and feelings of loss on my part. I think the loss comes from sitting vigil here twenty four seven. I do try to leave sometimes but have a lot of guilt when I do.

I would be so grateful if you could recommend something to help me get through these difficult days.

Thank you

Eugenia


Eugenia

Please understand that it is no small thing what a blessing you are to your husband. But, the simple fact is, that you do not serve your husband well if you do not take for yourself.

We caregivers are actually only human and too often take ourselves out of the Circle of Care and fall ill or even die, due to stress and not caring as well for ourselves as we do for our loved ones. But I know that you know that.

You not only donít deserve to feel any guilt about taking some time off, your husband's well-being demands that you do. I have taken the liberty of sharing your story (without any of your personal details) with a good friend at the hospital.

Gary


Gary

Dear God, thank you for this. I just need to know that what I am doing is the right thing and that no matter how hard he fights against things that there is a light in the tunnel somewhere.

You will be happy to know that I think I may have help coming. I talked to the heart team coordinator today and asked for the stress management team to help. She intends to talk to them. I cannot thank you enough for this. You provide a great service to caregivers, especially those of us who feel we are alone. 

Eugenia


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