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I get your newsletter daily and I have
saved several of them for re-reading. They have
helped me in many ways.
I am a caregiver for my spouse who has
heart disease and many other complications. He has
been in the hospital for five weeks and we are trying to
get him healthy enough to return home. I sometimes
feel overcome with grief for him and feelings of loss on
my part. I think the loss comes from sitting vigil
here twenty four seven. I do try to leave
sometimes but have a lot of guilt when I do.
I would be so grateful if you could
recommend something to help me get through these
Please understand that it is no small
thing what a blessing you are to your husband. But, the
simple fact is, that you do not serve your husband well
if you do not take for yourself.
We caregivers are actually only human
and too often take ourselves out of the Circle of Care
and fall ill or even die, due to stress and not caring
as well for ourselves as we do for our loved ones. But I
know that you know that.
You not only donít deserve to feel any
guilt about taking some time off, your husband's
well-being demands that you do. I have taken the liberty
of sharing your story (without any of your personal
details) with a good friend at the hospital.
Dear God, thank you for this. I just need to know
that what I am doing is the right thing and that no
matter how hard he fights against things that there is a
light in the tunnel somewhere.
You will be happy to know that I think I may have help
coming. I talked to the heart team coordinator
today and asked for the stress management team to help.
She intends to talk to them. I cannot thank
you enough for this. You provide a great service
to caregivers, especially those of us who feel we are