FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN / The
“I have an elderly mother who lives in assisted
living, but I visit her at least twice weekly to
take her to appointments, the hair salon, eat out,
etc. I am amazed at those featured in your
newsletter, on your Web site and in your magazine
who sacrifice SO much. I don't think I could do
that. Then I started wondering, is this a 'dirty
little secret'? If it hasn't been discussed, I think
it should be. There are those of us who either
cannot or will not, for various reasons, take on the
huge job of daily caregiving. I treasure the
time I have left with my mom, and we joke about a
lot of things related to aging; but I also know it
would be a strain on both of us to live together.“
I share this letter from a reader because it
highlights an issue about which I am quite serious.
There are NO textbook perfect caregivers or
caregiving situations. We are all just trying to do
the best we can on a daily basis for those we love
who are in need.
You are no less a loving caregiver if you are an
involved and caring long-distance caregiver,
supportive secondary caregiver, or a daughter who
knows that caring for Mom at home is not the best
answer she has to offer, for her or her mom. I would
like us all to turn to the last principle in the
Fearless Caregiver Manifesto (Feel free to
read it out loud.)
The test to see if you qualify as a caregiver is
a relatively simple one and can be found within the
word itself…and it has nothing to do with how close
you live to your loved one.
Here is the test…Do you CARE as much as you know
you are able and do you GIVE of yourself to those
you love who are in need?
Okay; that was simple for most of us. Let’s be
daring and go for an advanced certification…Do you
CARE as much as you can for yourself as well?
Now, that’s the test of a true and fearless