By Karen Evans
My biggest regret is that Mom is spending her hard
earned money to hire someone to assist us. I struggle
with conflicting feelings of "At least she has someone
to help her" vs. "This person is doing my job." This is
one case where there is no right or wrong. If I do for
Mom, I'll end up back in the hospital. If I stay in bed
and let others take charge, I find it hard to live with
Two years ago, Mom was given less than two years to live.
I watch her carefully as she tries to eat (more for my sake
than hers) or as she watches the Braves on TV and I believe
at this point she's going to make a liar out of her doctors.
I've readjusted my thinking about the future. I feel certain
that within a year, I'll resume all of my responsibilities
of caregiving without the help of strangers. I only have one
mother and when she eventually goes to her grave, I want to
feel successful in my caring for her and know that no one
could have done any better.