Witty tales about her childhood usually triggered
a hint of
recognition. I’d remind Maxine that as a little girl
she was
quite mischievous. She hated soft eggs and made no
bones
about it.
One day at breakfast, her mother told her to sit
there until
she ate all her eggs. When her mother left the room,
Maxine
quickly and quietly dumped them down the toilet.
Returning, her mother saw the clean plate and
said, “Now
see dear, those eggs weren’t so bad, were they?”
The more personal the quip, the louder she’d
laugh. That
was particularly true if the joke was on me. Like my
father’s
reaction to my high school report card.
After studying it in silence, my dad said, “Well,
there’s
one thing in your favor, son. With grades like
these, you
couldn’t possibly be cheating!”
Also, if something happened or was stated that
implicated her
at any given moment, Maxine would respond
spontaneously
with the first thought that crossed her troubled
mind.
For example, one day the caregiver had difficulty
getting
her into the shower. “Now Maxine,” said the
caregiver,
“You must take your shower.” She said, “Why?” The
caregiver said, “Because Mother Nature wants you to
be
clean.” Maxine: “I don’t know her!”
Another time we were sitting with one of our six
daughters,
Marquita, when Maxine suddenly asked, “Am I
married?”
Marquita said, “You certainly are, to Jim here. You
don’t
want another husband, do you?” Maxine: “I might.”
Alzheimer’s is a progressive, irreversible
disease. People
afflicted with it gradually lose their ability to
think, read, or
speak clearly and coherently.
Maxine was diagnosed with AD in 1990. I was by
her side
when she died in 2003. Alzheimer’s may have stolen
her
faculties, but it spared her sense of humor – a
blessing weeach shared.
Jim Greenwood
is the author of Alzheimer's: Medical Science and Families are Still
Asking Why?