Mary Muir, M.Ed.
I have been told that the best way to approach
our visits now is to avoid making any reference to
being her daughter. Unless she brings it up, I do
not mention that I have been there to see her. In
spite of the personal pain I am feeling, it is
important to confront the reality and not walk away
from her at a time when she is most vulnerable.
Consequently, I must now try to focus on the
calmness and comfort I can bring to her. We have let
go of titles and relationships. We are now just two
pilgrims on this journey and our focus is on how to
relate purely at the heart level. I am holding on to
the moments of comfort in the midst of pain and
suffering over a lifetime of lost memories.
May you never have to take this life changing
May you not put off making time for those you care
May you remember to cherish and appreciate your
While you can.
Note from Mary: This is my personal story,
but I hope it has a message for other families who
are facing the progression of Alzheimer’s and its
impact on relationships.
Mary Muir, M.Ed., has an
extensive background and experience in
Counseling, Mind Body Wellness, Reiki, Pastoral
Counseling and Healing Arts. She has conducted
numerous Women’s Groups, CEU Programs,
Professional Development Workshops, Spiritual
Practice Groups and Women’s Wellness Retreats
throughout New England.