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Helping Children Understand Alzheimer's
By Michael Plontz

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Your loved one has been diagnosed with Alzheimerís.  The first thing you want to do is find out all you can about the disease, and all about what you can do to take care of your loved one.  Itís a bitter pill to swallow, but, at least youíre an adult and you can understand whatís happening.  What about your children?  How can you help them cope?

The way in which Alzheimerís may affect children has to do largely with their relationship with the person before.  If they are close to the loved one, the mentally debilitating illness could cause fear, anger, sadness, and confusion.  If the loved one is living in the home of the caregiver, it can cause these feelings to intensify.

Fear is usually the first emotion to surface.  From the fear of their grandparent or other loved one arises feelings of anger, guilt, and jealousy.  All of these feelings can lead to sadness and even depression.  Also, feelings of despair and helplessness may result from the loss of the loving relationship between child and loved one.

The best thing you can do for your child or teenager is to be completely honest and keep the lines of communication open.  If children donít understand, they could act out by doing badly in school or withdrawing or becoming impatient with their loved one.  Physical or psychosomatic ailments such as stomachaches or headaches may manifest themselves as well.  They may have to be reminded several times that Alzheimerís is a disease, and that the disease is whatís affecting grandma or grandpa.

It is helpful to have answers ready for an inquisitive childís difficult questions.  The following questions are just the tip of the iceberg, but itís a start.

Q - Is grandma crazy?

A - No. Alzheimerís is a disease. Older adults are prone to illnesses that may make them forget things or act differently.

Q - Is it my fault?

A - Certainly not.  If grandma told you that, it is just the disease talking.

 

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