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This Week's Carenote - 11/18/14


My 90-year-old mother mostly takes care of herself, but she recently had some minor surgery on her rectum and the nurse filed an Adult Neglect Report because she noticed feces on her rectum. This was after a nurse came to the house that morning and gave her an enema. My mother has no assigned caregiver, but my daughter stays there on occasion to clean the house, do laundry, etc. Now we are afraid to help my mother because we might be charged with a crime. HELP.


Shared by: TJ

Sounds like the nurse was overly cautious. If she explored the issue a bit she would have realized she had rectal surgery and it's not uncommon to have some staining, especially at your mother's age.

I'm not sure why the nurse gave her an enema, it may have been to help with elimination after the surgery.

Nonetheless, make sure you document who is coming and going and what care they are giving your mother. If she's alert and oriented she would be able to tell you if someone made her feel uncomfortable. It's understandable that a professional who is a mandatory reporter (if she suspects abuse) but being overly cautious can cause problems for the client and their family.

Continue to assist your mom however you can, keep records on what kind of help you give her, dates, etc. and if you note any change in her or any bruising. It doesn't hurt to contact adult protective services yourself with your concerns and ask for advise to avoid these type of situations.



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