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Welcome to CareNotes. In this special section we will feature a reader's letter and provide an opportunity for an interactive exchange that will help find some answers and possible solutions to concerns. If you wish to respond to this letter, simple follow the link provided at the end of the letter and add your comments and thoughts to our CareNotes Board.

This Week's Carenote - 10/11/11
I  have a 92-year-old grandma. We were just told she can't live alone. I am getting married in a couple of weeks, we just got a one-bedroom apartment about a month ago, and Iím an only child with no parents to help me out. I don't want to put my grandma in a nursing home. We can't afford it, she can do most things on her own, and she does not want to go to a nursing home. I don't know what to do.


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Name: Marie
Location: Delaware
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 04:30 PM


Can she afford to have a live-in caregiver? Your state has a division of aging division through your state's .gov website. Surely someone there can put you in the right direction to find out if she would qualify for assistance in that regard, utilizing Medicare, or Medicaid if she qualifies for Medicaid. Best of luck to all of you.

Name: C, Douty
Location: Texas
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 01:14 PM


Home health care may be available through Medicare. Perhaps a live-in sitter for her may work. She won't like any of this. For her safety and your contentment at the beginning of the rest of your life, seek advice from community organizations, churches. I will pray for you. Congratuations on your forthcoming marriage.

Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 11:09 AM


What about senior housing or subsidized senior housing that have lifeline type equipment all installed in the units. My mom has her own little apt., it's subsidized senior housing. If they don't hear from one another before a certain time each day they check on each other. They often cook for each other and many have meals on wheels come in. I feel very fortunate that she is there but still can live a little independantly.

Name: Mary Leach
Location: Folcroft, Pennsylvania 19032
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 11:04 AM


My Mom was in the same position. I had someone from the Department on Aging come in to our home and do an assessment. They gave her everything because of her income. She had caregivers while I was at work. She had a stair glide. She had one of those buttons that you can push if she needed help.She passed away of congestive heart failure almost a year after we started having help. We had hospice when things started turning for the worse. I think she really died the way she wanted to at home with dignity.

Name: Theresa McCarty
Location: St. Louis MO
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 10:06 AM


I would tell your grandma exactly what you have told us, and see what she might be surprised at her answer. Express your feelings. Your grandma loves you.

Name: Lisa Prince
Location: Dudley MA
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 07:05 AM


Medicaid insurance often offers a service similar to "foster care" for adults who want to remain in the community rather than in an institutional setting. The agencies offering the program would work to find a "family" for your grandmother to live with who could help to meet her personal care needs. Your grandmother would have to qualify for Medicaid (financially based approval), and you would need to contact your state's version of Medicaid to determine if such a program exists where you are. This program has proven to be very helpful in Massachusetts in keeping elders in the community.

Name: Barbara
Location: Philadelphia
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 05:43 AM


There are inhome services that are available in most counties. You need to start out by contacting the office on aging int he county shwere she resides.There are also assisted Living Communities that are not as costly as Nursing Homes that provide meals and assistance.

Name: Kristin Overton
Location: Spectrum Generations, Maine
Date: 10/11/2011
Time: 05:40 AM


Contact your local Area Agency on Aging's customer information line. They will know all of the options and possible funding sources available to you in your local region. If you don't know who your local "AAA" is - you can find them here - Best wishes!



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