I am 36 and I take care of my husband who is 38 and has
Bipolar II disorder. He has had this for about 7
years. I love him very much and we have two teenage
daughters; we've been married 16 years. Right now I am
at my breaking point. I feel like *me* is completely gone.
All I can do is think about how to respond to him so that I
donít set him off. He is staying on his meds for as far as I
can tell. The biggest thing I deal with is his inability to
communicate with anyone and mostly me. He absolutely refuses
or cannot try to talk to anyone about daily life. If I talk
to him once per day, that is a lot! And then itís usually
like we just met and we talk about the weather.
want to break free of this; I want him to try to work on his
issues, but he wonít. I want to divorce him right now
because I just need to have a real relationship. But I love
him and I promised him for better or for worse. I want to
always be there for him, but I need things, too. I feel as
if I just donít get to have feelings and preferences. I
think I need to find someone who can listen; someone who
cares about me. I need to find people like me, but
there are no support groups in my area that I can find.
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