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Welcome to CareNotes. In this special section we will feature a reader's letter and provide an opportunity for an interactive exchange that will help find some answers and possible solutions to concerns. If you wish to respond to this letter, simple follow the link provided at the end of the letter and add your comments and thoughts to our CareNotes Board.

This Week's Carenote - 06/07/11

I thank God I found this Web site! I just moved temporarily from Los Angeles to Akron, Ohio. My mom went downhill mentally sooooo fast. I started a job when I arrived, but can't put any real time in as of yet. I've been unemployed for 10 years and now feel SPENT. My mom is in a rehab facility, one sister won't speak to me and the other one is trying to help—especially great in the financial aspect. But I feel so alone, lost and overwhelmed.  I can't get money, I have to pay $1000/month for my own healthcare costs right now, and I’m getting Mom's crazy calls. I'm just looking for more tips on keeping myself sane. I don't have much to share right now, but I'll keep reading some of these wonderful stories. I want to thank you all for letting me vent. Take care and God bless everyone!


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Name: Roxanna
Location: Champaign, IL
Date: 06/08/2011
Time: 12:47 PM

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Find a caregiver support group and you will find you are not so lost,SPENT,and alone. Don't waste energy thinking about the sister that won't speak to you. Ask the care center to shut your mom's phone off at a certain time of the afternoon. If she needs you they will contact you. Concentrate on you. Be thankful to your sister for al that she is doing to help.


Name: Deborah
Location: L.A. to Cleveland
Date: 06/08/2011
Time: 07:46 AM

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Hang in there and don't forget to take so "me" time. Walk around the block, scrapbook, journal do something you love for yourself often. Doesn't have to cost anything. And Carol's suggestions are great, too.


Name: Louise
Location: Long Island, New York
Date: 06/07/2011
Time: 06:47 AM

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Your mom is being cared for in rehab, you're getting help from one sister, and you have a job. I think you need to focus on your job, ask the rehab facility to disconnect your mom's phone after hours, and demonstrate your love and appreciation to your supportive sister. In my humble opinion, once you concentrate on what's important, all the other pressing issues will be addressed. You need your own support system, such as this column. But you need to interact in person with other caregivers. Ask your mother's rehab center if they can point you in the right direction. I have been caring for a very ill husband for over ten years. The journey has been arduous but my own support system (family and friends) has really saved my life. You're a good person for caring about your mom; believe in yourself and you'll feel much better.


 







 

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