My 85-year-old father and I are in a difficult position. My mother (84)
has Crohn's disease and late-onset Alzheimer's. The combination of the
two is devastating. We are constantly cleaning her and her surroundings.
She is down to 94 pounds. She is still lucid and knows most of what's
going on, although she often forgets where she is.
How do we know
when it is time to put her in a 24/7 facility? My father doesn't think
she is ready for a nursing home. Two to three times a week, she attends
an adult daycare. Her doctor thinks it would be easier on my dad if she
were in a facility;he says she will need more care than one or two
people can provide. The doctor and I am very concerned about the effect
this is having on my father, who is fragile himself. I am with my folks
for a month or two, but then I have to leave. They have long-term care
insurance and have had aids come in. Please give me some guidance.
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