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This Week's Carenote - 7/27/10

When reasoning is “out of the question,” sometimes I find that silence with a nod can be a quick cure all for an impending argument (disagreement?). Go out for a few minutes to catch a breather. Come back oblivious to whatever transpired before the breather, and see if things have indeed settled down. This has worked for me since my mother has started to show signs of dementia. She is good at evading certain things such as getting a sponge bath or shampoo, doing exercises, etc.

I am 52 years old and I am the only person that she will let get near her. She has fired every agency in town that could help me help her; and now while I am battling my illness on chemotherapy, I am alone with a vindictive, angry, confused mom. She likes to play the “blame game.” I have found that I don't have to stand there and take the abuse. I can do the chores, read a book (the Bible is my favorite), go for a walk, do the shopping, text a friend and tune her out as long as I can see that she is safe. I could also use some advice out there.

EA

 

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