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This Week's Carenote - 7/14/10

I'm not sure where the best place I can find information regarding a certain situation that's recently come up at my workplace that's troubling me and I was hoping you might be able to point me in the right direction.  

I have been a caregiver for over 15 years and I've never had a problem like this before. One of my patients is an elderly man whom I've been caring for in his home for over 5 years now. He's always been the type to casually bring up topics every now and then about things of a sexual nature. I usually handle it by not encouraging or engaging in the subject further by changing the subject, which normally works despite my uncomfortableness without incident. Recently he really crossed that line where he attempted to slip his hand under my shirt to touch my breast. I know there is probably several ways to handle this, and looking back I know I should've handled it differently, but I was so shocked and taken back by his inappropriate behavior that my first reaction was to quickly pull away and leave immediately. I know I should've said something while pulling away to make it clear to him right then, that what he did was unacceptable and I will not tolerate it! But in the moment, all I did was react. I contacted his son right after the incident and said I needed a few days off, with the possibility of not returning.

I am so torn with conflicting emotions about this and if I could ever feel comfortable going back even if the situation was addressed. Nor do I want him to feel that way around me, whether or not he's confronted with what he did. Please help. Ive been asking around for advice, but evidently this doesn't seem to happen around here, and Im really uncomfortable talking about it. Any input or advice you could throw my way would be so greatly appreciated!!!!!!

Thank you so much for taking the time to listen.

 

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