Many caregivers who have attended the
Fearless Caregiver Conferences this fall have
asked me for a copy of the following story with
which I usually open my speeches. The
story is attributed to George Carlin, but he
always denied having written it.
Nonetheless, it really speaks to me as a
caregiver and hopefully to you as well:
The Paradox of our Time
The paradox of our time in history is that
we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers;
wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We
spend more, but have less; we buy more, but
enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller
families; more conveniences, but less time. We
have more degrees, but less sense; more
knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, yet
more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too
recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast,
get too angry, stay up too late, get up too
tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and
pray too seldom. We have multiplied our
possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too
much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a
life. We've added years to life, not life to
years. We've been all the way to the moon and
back, but have trouble crossing the street to
meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space,
but not inner space. We've done larger things,
but not better things. We've cleaned up the air,
but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom,
but not our prejudice.
Remember, spend some time with your loved
ones, because they are not going to be around
Remember, say a kind word to someone who
looks up to you in awe, because that little
person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember to give a warm hug to the one next
to you, because that is the only treasure you
can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a
Remember to say, "I love you" to your partner
and your loved ones; but most of all, mean it. A
kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes
from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment
for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak, and give
time to share the precious thoughts in your
Remember - Life is not measured by the number
of breaths we take, but by the moments that take
our breath away.
What more need be said?