RC:
We give an award to a family
caregiver, and we try to choose
people who don’t
get the publicity for what they do.
Caregivers don’t feel that what they
are doing is
important, so this is our way of
stressing how important it is and
what a family caregiver
does. We’re starting this year to
give awards to professional
caregivers. We have a friend
who came to us to talk about his
mother who was in a nursing home,
and he said that
those low-paid professionals who do
all these wonderful things for
elderly people and
people with disabilities who need
care don’t ever get any attention
for it. So, we’re going
to have a big gala for them here at
the Atlanta Symphony Hall, and bring
in professional
caregivers ... social workers, aides
... the hands-on caregivers. The man
that is working
with us on that is Neil Schulman who
wrote the Doc Hollywood book, and
he’s really interested in thanking those people
who have helped take care of his
mother.
The reason we need to have some
knowledge of caregiving is because
so many people are thrown into it
without knowing anything about it.
My daughter-in-law’s father died
suddenly and she lived five hours
away. She had three little boys and
she became totally responsible for
her mother. It was really tough on
her. Women work today, they are
having fewer children, and there are
so many medical advancements, people
can survive tragic accidents and be
incapacitated for the rest of their
lives. People’s families live such
long distances away. I know that
when my mother died in 2000 at 94,
she didn’t want me
to travel so much, she wanted me to
be at home all the time, and I just
couldn’t. So I
would call her all the time, from
wherever we were, on a regular
basis; but that’s hard,
too. But I was the oldest, I was a
daughter, I was the one who had
helped her with my
siblings when we were younger, so
she thought I just ought to be
there. I’ve had that
long-distance experience as well,
and there are many people in that
situation. The main
reason for this is because people
are living so much longer.
GB:
That’s all caregiving. It’s just as
important as someone living at the
house.
Sometimes people will say that they
are no longer a caregiver because
their loved one is in
a facility, but they really are
still a caregiver.
RC:
That’s right, they are still
responsible for them. I know that
when my mother was
in a facility for the last
year-and-a-half of her life, my
brother had a stroke . Neither of
his sons lived in the same town as
he did, so they sent him down to
Plains where I live. He was in a
retirement village right around the
corner from my house, but he
depended on me, too; totally,
because I was the only there to care
for him. He could kind of take care
of himself, kind of get dressed, but
he’d have to have someone give him
his medicines. I know that he didn’t
like for me to be gone, so I know
what it’s like to be away with
somebody at home that you’re
responsible for. I never thought
that I would be in that situation
because my brother had not lived at
home since he left high school.
GB:
How can people help support your
work at the Rosalynn Carter
Institute?
RC:
Right now we’re raising an endowment
so that it can go on after I’m no
longer
able to raise money for it. It’s the
only university-based caregiving
center, which is kind of
nice, and we raise money; but we do
receive grants like from Johnson &
Johnson and
from the Area Agency on Aging.