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The Delta Burke and Gerald McRaney Interview (Page 1 of 3)

An Interview with Delta Burke and Gerald McRaney

Delta and Gerald

Gary Barg: Mac, did it take a while for Delta to see that it was time to see a therapist, or bring professionals into it?

Gerald McRaney: It was a matter of, among other things, searching for the right medication, and just sort of time with the therapist, until things began to make sense to Delta. To me, that was one of the things about the medications that they are not, in and of themselves, going to cure depression; but they will let you get out of your own way long enough that you and your therapist can take care of the symptoms.

GB: That’s right. We’re always talking to caregivers about there being no “magic bullet.” But everything is a shovel full of dirt for you to fill in that hole you’ve been standing in.

Delta Burke: There were times, as we went along, he was very protective of me and sheltered me from unpleasant environments or things that were very stressful to me.  Then, as I began to get stronger and was able to handle things a little better, we had to readjust the relationship, which was always tricky.

GM: And it wasn’t just a continuing spiral up and out of it; occasionally, she would go back into a dark place again. So, I didn’t know what my role was at that point. Am I the one who is supposed to be protective or am I the one who is supposed to let her go out and face these things and deal with her fears? Where do I stand now?

GB: How did you find those answers?

GM: You just have to sort of play of it by ear, and deal with where she is at this moment in time as you go along.

DB: And he also came into therapy with me for a while, where we learned to talk to each other better; because that communication had to happen and sometimes I would shut down. So we each learned the techniques for not threatening the other one, not scaring the other one, or having the other get defensive, and keeping the communication open. That was a big turning point for us that helped a lot. He had to come in for a while, and in just in a few sessions, we were able to start practicing that. He would go in and learned more with the doctors.

GB: Mac, did you find yourself falling into a depression or did you find yourself not caring for yourself? Did this affect you?

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