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The Amy Grant Interview (Page 2 of 2)

Gary Barg: There’s no formula, but we can learn from other’s lessons.

Amy Grant: Absolutely, yes. That’s true of any hard time. It is our ability to see whatever it is we’re going through in a meaningful light. Otherwise, you just get trapped in why, why, why, and that’s really counterproductive. I mean, tears are essential, but you just can’t stay there. With my parents, I was frustrated. My mother fell again in her own home and we were going through a Rolodex of caregivers trying to find the right fit. Then a friend spoke these words to me, “Take a deep breath, Amy, and just remember this is the last great lesson your parents will teach you.” That immediately created a framework for me to say, “Well, you’re right. This is going to be a lesson in using my creativity, in listening to my instincts and to those moments of inspiration and direction that seem like they come out of nowhere. And trusting that, on some level, we’re all led at different points in our lives when we have the greatest need.” It has been an amazing journey, and I’m so grateful for it.

Gary Barg: So many people who have never been caregivers are always surprised about how caregiving actually brings people closer to their faith. I was wondering how caregiving influences your faith, or vice versa?

Amy Grant: There is immediacy to caregiving. I think what I felt with my mother was being more vulnerable all the way around when in moments of caregiving with her. You can’t help but feel sometimes frustrated, but also an overriding sense of compassion. If you read through The New Testament, there are so many times in the gospels when just prior to Jesus performing a miracle would be the phrase “and moved by compassion” or “moved with compassion” or “filled with compassion.” And I think that the groundwork for the miraculous and the setting for spiritual experience is in the context of compassion.

Gary Barg: What would be the one most important piece of advice you’d like to share with family caregivers?

Amy Grant: “This, too, shall pass.” Nothing stays the same. I think, that’s where the faith element really comes in. There are so many moments in a day that no one sees all of the details of how a caregiver is extending themselves on somebody else’s behalf. But God does, and the way I read my Bible, it is very clear through The Old Testament and The New Testament that God has always been devoted to the disenfranchised and the marginalized people in our community. And I mean, that’s what Jesus said, this is pure religion, to take care of widows and orphans. I think there is an audience for every one of us in the details of our lives that nobody else sees, except God, just the one that made us. And when we remember that, it does give value to every sacrifice that nobody else sees. And I know it comes back. I don’t know how, but I know it does.

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