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Are You a Type D Personality? Here’s
By Debbie Mandel
Here are some suggestions to lead your
life, instead of blindly following wherever it takes
Accept responsibility for your life. Either make things
work out better where you are, or select a more suitable
environment like a nursing home or assisted living for
the person in your care. Learn to rid yourself of the
victim mentality. If you use the word “stuck” to
describe your life, then you have given away your power.
Words train our spirit. Loosen your addiction to the
word “stuck.” Use words like: “choose,” “free” and
Express yourself honestly, but pay careful attention to
how others receive your words. Communication is a
two-way street. Plan to do a lot of listening and you
will learn vital information that can help.
Balance your needs with the people who inhabit your
life. When you know what makes you happy, make those
around you happy too. That means compliment them by
finding something positive to say to trigger their
positive energy. Touch and hug to transmit the loving,
healing energy deep within you. Good energy rebounds,
settles an agitated heart and promotes improved health.
Can you learn from criticism? Associate with a person or
persons who don’t always agree with you. Hear their
ideas and suggestions. Avoid being right all the time!
Don’t let your need for emotional security and control
run your life. Try to leave your comfort zone and seek
out change. Emotional security can serve as a cage.
Don’t let anger fuel your future. Anger and resentment
are energy vampires that stunt your growth.
Don’t be the archetypal rescuer who forgets to rescue
the self. As per airline instructions, put the oxygen
mask on yourself first and then on the person in your
charge. Because if you pass out, so will your patient.
If you are stressed, the person you love and care for
will absorb that stress.
Delegate, delegate, delegate! Ask for help. Community
centers, houses of worship, colleges, etc. have
volunteers ready, willing and able to help you out. Live
in greater balance with a sense of who you are.
MA is the author of Changing Habits: The Caregivers’
Total Workout and Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for
Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist,
motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body
lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your
Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City,
produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been
featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more,