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"If You Find Yourself in a Hole, Stop
The quote is from Will Rogers, a simple talking
philosopher, who just asked us to look honestly at
ourselves, look around and appreciate what we see.
In preparing for a community course on interacting with
a dependent loved one to keep them stimulated and
positive, I was struck by the many technical supports
available and the real lack of hands on, relationship
builders for caregivers and the person they love.
One of the last stages that most of us may be lucky to
go through is Life Review. It’s not just those few
seconds as we look up at the light from above to skip
through the high and low points of our lives as we
listen to harps plinking “Just A Closer Walk With Thee.”
To look at our lives—the should haves, would haves,
could haves or still have to do—gives a person purpose,
a sense of self worth and a calmness. Without
ordering our life, our hopes, our regrets, many people
forget what they’ve done in their life and who they are
and turn to emptiness and despair.
As we get older, we often have extra time to
philosophize about our life, unless we have to deal with
a major change like an acute medical crisis or a chronic
medical problem—our own or a loved one’s. Then all we
think of is our condition or the condition of our loved
one and we miss out on really appreciating where our
lives have led us.
So what can we do to accomplish a Life Review?
Ask questions. Every day and record the answers.
Have a binder where you can add pages as you go along.