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How important is the location? Is
convenience for visiting, beauty of the cemetery or
being in or near the family plot the greatest priority?
If a cemetery is located in a residential neighborhood,
how will you feel as the neighborhood changes? Is this
your second marriage and which spouse would you like to
be buried with? Do you want to purchase extra plots for
unmarried siblings or children and their families? These
re just a few of the questions you need to consider.
What are my family’s values about
funerals and cemeteries?
Often, I hear people saying things like
“Just give me the cheapest funeral possible: I wont be
here to know the difference.” While this may make
economic sense to you, it frequently leaves those behind
without a sense of closure. Funerals are a time for
people (whether it is 2 or 200) to come together too say
good-bye and honor the deceased. It is important for
your family to have a dialogue and have everyone’s
feelings considered. In addition, not everyone in a
family has the same religious beliefs. These feelings
need to be considered also. Usually most everyone’s
needs can be respected if discussed in advance.
Remember that pre-arrangements are a
blueprint for your wishes. While funeral or cemetery
pre-need counselors can help you with these decisions
they cannot anticipate all your family’s needs.
Therefore these arrangements are flexible and can be
changed. At the time of death, your funeral director
will meet with a spokesperson for the family and review
all the arrangements to make sure the family information
is correct and current. At that time, adjustments will
be made if needed. Before you choose a funeral director
and cemetery, you might want to take the time to visit
the facility and meet the staff who will be working with
Consider whether or not you have talked
with your family about this important topic. While many
people feel that their family can take care of this at
the time of their death, they do their surviving family
no service by leaving it till then! Like any other major
purchase you would make, you should be an informed
consumer and get the information in advance.