Tuesday February 14,  2006, Issue #262

Happy Valentine's Day!

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From The Editor


Happy Valentine's Day

They heard about the session in the news that very morning. Let’s call them Mike and Mindy. I was in their town to host an information and resource panel and had a short interview on one of the local television stations, which prompted their attendance. The idea of the panel was to enable caregivers to ask questions of their local experts and receive immediate attention. My role was to moderate and (hopefully) motivate.
 

At first Mike and Mindy didn’t ask any questions, it seemed as if it took all their available energy not to burst into tears. Finally, their story emerged; they had been primary caregivers for Mindy’s Mom, who lived with them for over 18 years before she passed away last fall. Now, his dad needed care. The rest of the story was familiar enough, no local family except for a brother living 30 miles away who might as well have been living on another planet. The question they finally asked that day was delivered in a low but plaintive tone “How can we get away, if even for a while?” 
 

To me, the answers were simple enough. Their community was at no loss for respite opportunities. But as I listened while they were given credible options for temporary relief, I realized something. These folks were too drained and too lost to be able to even hear the answers given. They were like the person who needed to gain muscle strength before being able to perform a strenuous physical task, but were too weak and depressed to even start the exercise needed to develop the muscles to begin the task in the first place. 


I know that they received good advice that day and one of the agencies was committed to following up with them, but I don’t know if they will be able to find the energy to help motivate each other to the action they so desperately need. I hope so. 


The take-home lesson for all of us who empathize with Mike and Mindy is that although they have consistently exhibited real love for their family members, the people they really need to turn their attention to this Valentines Day (and beyond) is themselves.
 

Happy Valentine’s Day, or as I like to say “Happy Care for Caregivers Day.”

Take care
Gary Barg

Editor-in-Chief
gary@caregiver.com


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Feature Article

She Wanted Two Kisses
By Gwendolyn de Geest, RN, BSN, MA

Rose sits in the lounge chair. The morning rays of sunlight shine on her face, illuminating her once bright, blue eyes. ..Continued


Additional Articles::

Coping with Grief
By Dorothy Womack
 
Today I am talking to those of you who are the remaining spouse, having placed your loved one into a care facility...Continued


Planning for the Future
By Rabbi Saul Goldman

Caregivers are lonely people. The more fortunate ones may be surrounded by close family and friends, but many Caregivers are left to struggle with the pain of a loved one by themselves. ...Continued

 

Guest Column

Hospice Care
by Peter Ganther

As caregivers to someone who is terminally ill, we must eventually think about end-of-life care for our loved ones.  We want them to die in familiar surroundings with us and with dignity......Continued


Caretips

Alzheimer's And Incontinence: A Puzzling Combination
Daniel L. Paris, MSW

Just when you thought it couldn’t get any worse, your loved one with Alzheimer’s develops incontinence.  What do you do now?  The following letter and its answer may help with this puzzling combination...Continued

 


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Carenotes


My husband recently had a stroke. He doesn't want to get out of bed in the mornings and doesn't want to take a shower. He's very difficult. It usually takes me 3-4 hours to get him up and I'm in tears and he's only had two showers in 10 days and getting him there was very difficult. I've had to cancel doctors appointments and therapy sessions because he won't get out of bed. Before the stroke he would take 1 sometimes 2 showers a day.

He's pretty agreeable about everything else. Any ideas on motivating him to get up and take a bath or shower?


Answer This Week's CareNote:
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Inside This Issue:

From the Editor
Happy Valentine's Day
Feature Article
She Wanted Two Kisses
Guest Column
Hospice Care
CareTips
Carenotes


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